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Flashbacks Reproduced with the kind permission of Tyneside Rape Crisis Centre.
Flashbacks - What are they? When do flashbacks occur ? Low or vulnerable As this list shows, flashbacks can occur regardless of how you are feeling. The list is not intended to be exhaustive as there are so many ways you could be feeling when a flashback occurs. Many women have cited the following example as a trigger for flashbacks: Someone who’s physical appearance reminds you of the perpetrator, including: Mannerisms Flashbacks can be triggered at any time and can happen anywhere e.g. you could be watching a programme on T.V. or reading a magazine or out at the theatre or out for a meal etc. when a flashback occurs. Do flashbacks differ in any way ? Visual flashbacks: Auditory flashbacks: Sensory flashbacks:
This type of flashback can also include strong, overwhelming sensations of taste and/or smell. How can I help myself during and after flashbacks? You are not going mad or crazy; you are remembering experiences, feelings, thoughts and images, which were too frightening or impossible to deal with at the time that they occurred.
Although they can feel very frightening, flashbacks are actually a good sign that you are unearthing the buried trauma and that you are on your way to recovery. It is important that you reassure yourself with the knowledge that this is a temporary state, it will not last forever and through time, the flashback will reduce in frequency and intensity. You may find yourself trying to avoid all potential triggers for these memories. This is not possible as there are so many situations that could trigger memories. While it is not possible to control the nature and strength of the flashbacks, you can do a lot of things to help lessen the power and impact that they have on your life. Take yourself to a safe place. Don't fight the flashback. Ground yourself. Remind yourself of the day, date, time etc.Look at your surroundings, where you are right now. Remind yourself of how old you are, where you live etc. Try to let part of yourself stay in the present while, at the same time allowing yourself to remember your past. Remind yourself that this is a memory. This is a memory of something that has already happened to you and you have survived it. Reassure yourself that you are not being hurt in the present, even though you may feel as though it is happening now. It is important that you keep on reminding yourself that you have come through this experience and that you are now on the road to recovery. Give yourself space and time to recover. Reliving memories can be a painful and exhausting experience. It may take several hours or days for you to feel okay again. If you need to rest, sleep, cry or be angry, give yourself permission to do so. Don’t jump up and try to do something else straight away. Write about your memory. What you remembered Comfort yourself. Talk about the flashback. Even though you may feel like keeping the flashback to yourself, it can be really helpful if you share it with a supportive person. In talking it through you may gain more insight to yourself and it may help you to put your experience into perspective.Remember, you have not done anything wrong, being raped or assaulted was not your fault and you do not have to suffer in silence.Give yourself permission to receive support and understanding from others. Be proud of yourself.
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